When it comes to us, “ROCD people”, we like to dwell on the symptoms of our condition and replay different options and scenarios in our minds. We do this in hopes to find a solution or answer that we never seen before. And this goes on and on and on…… This is not a very good way of moving forward and improving our ROCD. In reality there are only two options:
Option 1 – Continue doing what have been doing so far –> ruminate and reinforce the cycle
This is what we do best. Getting lost in our thoughts, creating more anxiety in a non-ending stream of possibilities and deep analysis. This only makes ROCD worst. We develop other compulsions (specially checking types for feelings). This is not very productive and will only end up making us emotionally numb, anxious and depressed. But we still keep on doing it, day after day…I guess that is why it is called an obsession.
Option 2 – Try another approach –> commit yourself to change and break the cycle
For us to get better, we need to try a different approach. The very first step is to commit oneself to a change in behaviors, thoughts and actions. We can get all the necessary tools to get better but if we are not committed daily to change then we will never achieve our desired goal. Being committed is one of the hardest parts of the process of change. You have to be very strong minded to be able to achieve this. Strong minded because it will take time to see the results and not everything that you will try will work. Somethings will not work, others will work very quickly and others very slowly. Accepting this is part of this commitment to change.
Can you identify thoughts, actions and behaviors that reinforce your ROCD addiction cycle?
Can you identify positive ways of breaking the cycle?