Your brain is always looking for signs danger and possible signs of trouble, ESPECIALLY in people with anxiety and ROCD.
Let’s look at this example:
You have been in a relationship for some time. ROCD kicks in. Your boyfriend or girlfriend buys you a present. Your anxiety kicks in because this means things are getting serious and you start to think a lot about possible meanings, and the story continues… Now, the opposite. He or she does not buy you a present. You might be waiting for one. You start to think the he/she is inconsiderate. Your start to think again that maybe this is not the type of person that you want to be in a relationship with…and ROCD and anxiety kick in strongly…
So, see? Damn if you do, damn if you don’t. The brain will always look for a sign of danger even if it is not there! It will make up new dangers as well.
Put your brain into neutral. Do not pay much attention to these false alarms and accept each day as it comes. Remember, you can only live in the present not the future.