Tip #26 Treat the disease not the symptoms

One of my biggest mistakes, when I was going through my ROCD period, was to try and fix the symptoms and not the disease. The issue never was trying to find an answer to a question or questions but rather being able to accept uncertainty and becoming happy with it. The only certainty that exists is the one that we make happen through our own actions. Everything else are just degrees of probability.

Imagine this, you injured your leg and end up going to see a doctor. The leg is broken but you complain that you can’t run at all. And you want the doctor to fix you. What the doctor might say is that you need surgery, medication, cast, crutches, and plenty of rest. The doctor will not say that you need to stand on your leg, go for long walks and sprints.

Now, think of this. We have a ROCD thought that triggers a lot of anxiety and discomfort. It affects our FEELING and THINKING ability. We can’t run (feel or think) as fast as before. Should we beat ourselves up because we can’t run this fast anymore? And continue to push ourselves to try and run faster or just stop and try to fix what is broken? I am not saying that the relationship needs to end but rather the opposite. That we need time and proper care to be able to run again. In this case, to feel and think “normally”.

The funny thing is that because we can’t see a broken brain, we expect it to heal faster than a broken leg. As a matter of opinion, I would say that fixing a broken brain could take as long or more than fixing a ligament. It takes longer to fix a ligament than it does to fix a broken leg. I have googled “fixing a ligament” and this is the best answer I found in a forum that I think applies somewhat to ROCD.

“probably around 2 weeks for pain to stop . however to fully recover 6 months plus. Try not to get ahead of your healing. You may start to feel fully repaired but it takes time. And at the end of the day you only get 2 knees and they have to last the rest of your life.Try speaking to a physiotherapist”

How are our expectations and need of control affecting our happiness? Do we know  how to differentiate between the ROCD symptoms and the  ROCD disease?

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8 comments

  1. Your blog is an extremely helpful and excellent resource for sufferers eveywhere. Thank you for continuing to post these. 😀

  2. Hi there,
    to tell you the truth it is impossible not to recover. It will only continue like this if you keep on doing the wrong things…the best example that I can think of is someone that is overweight and keeps on eating in the hope of getting better by eating more. This is not the solution. The solution is to decrease the amount you are eating. It requires discipline and effort. But it is achievable.

    1. Hi there, I’ve just noticed you are in the uk… I don’t seem to be able to find a suitable therapist to be able to help me… I am seeing somebody at the moment but it is more about discovering how past issues may have affected me now but not so much about helping with moving forward from where I am now… Did you see a therapist specialising in rocd? And erp? Ide be very I retested to know where you found them… I only find them in USA :(. Thank you 🙂

  3. Thank you 🙂 I will have a look into that as would rather spend abit more money on something that will defiantly help than something I’m not so sure about.
    And thank you for taking the time to do your blog 🙂 it is a real boost in harder days. Thank you

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