One of my biggest mistakes, when I was going through my ROCD period, was to try and fix the symptoms and not the disease. The issue never was trying to find an answer to a question or questions but rather being able to accept uncertainty and becoming happy with it. The only certainty that exists is the one that we make happen through our own actions. Everything else are just degrees of probability.
Imagine this, you injured your leg and end up going to see a doctor. The leg is broken but you complain that you can’t run at all. And you want the doctor to fix you. What the doctor might say is that you need surgery, medication, cast, crutches, and plenty of rest. The doctor will not say that you need to stand on your leg, go for long walks and sprints.
Now, think of this. We have a ROCD thought that triggers a lot of anxiety and discomfort. It affects our FEELING and THINKING ability. We can’t run (feel or think) as fast as before. Should we beat ourselves up because we can’t run this fast anymore? And continue to push ourselves to try and run faster or just stop and try to fix what is broken? I am not saying that the relationship needs to end but rather the opposite. That we need time and proper care to be able to run again. In this case, to feel and think “normally”.
The funny thing is that because we can’t see a broken brain, we expect it to heal faster than a broken leg. As a matter of opinion, I would say that fixing a broken brain could take as long or more than fixing a ligament. It takes longer to fix a ligament than it does to fix a broken leg. I have googled “fixing a ligament” and this is the best answer I found in a forum that I think applies somewhat to ROCD.
“probably around 2 weeks for pain to stop . however to fully recover 6 months plus. Try not to get ahead of your healing. You may start to feel fully repaired but it takes time. And at the end of the day you only get 2 knees and they have to last the rest of your life.Try speaking to a physiotherapist”
How are our expectations and need of control affecting our happiness? Do we know how to differentiate between the ROCD symptoms and the ROCD disease?